You deserve to experience loads of pleasure throughout your day. In fact, you are in a body that is designed to experience loads of pleasure. The best way to get there is through a pleasure practice.
Think about it, you have five physical senses-touch, taste, sound, smell, and sight-always taking in data that is creating your human experience. That’s not to mention your imagination, a sense that I consider to be very useful in exploring pleasure.
All these senses are giving you opportunities to explore your pleasure capacity.
However, most of us are not used to recognizing when we are experiencing pleasure. We are not aware of pleasure in the way we can be. Because this world can be a tough one at times, we have all had experiences that have been more painful, traumatic, and stressful than pleasurable. Which means, our brains are not wired to experience pleasure as quickly as it experiences stress.
The Science of Pleasure
Neuroplasticity is the science behind pleasure. Basically, the neurons in your brain are able to connect and grow. They grow by what you practice over and over again. So a pleasure practice is being aware of pleasure and taking actions that strengthen your ability to feel and experience pleasure.
When you rebuild the neurons in your brain, it allows your brain find pleasure pathways easier. When you have stronger pleasure pathways, the more pleasure your body is looking to experience.
Think of it like this, right now your pleasure pathways are like small dirt roads. They exist but they are sometimes hard to find, you can’t travel as quickly on them, and you can get lost or hit a dead end. When you create bigger neural pathways for pleasure, these dirt roads become paved city roads and eventually highways, meaning you can get to pleasure so much quicker, you experience more pleasure in your daily life because the pathways you’re taking are stronger and clearer.
Sounds pretty good right?
A pleasure practice is simply practicing awareness of pleasure at any moment throughout your day. Training your brain for pleasure can transform all aspects of your daily experience, not just your sexual world.
Remember, pleasure doesn’t have to equal sex. Pleasure is found in all types of experiences, from feeling the sun on your skin, to drinking a warm cup of tea on a cold day, to feeling a soft touch from your beloved. Pleasure is all around if you are ready to put your attention to it.
Pleasure Practice 1
Sit in a comfortable position, close your eyes, and find your breath. Place one hand on your heart and the other on your belly. Notice your hands warmth. Notice your breath. Notice your heart beat. Feel the pleasure of your own touch on your heart and belly.
Pleasure Practice 2
Play with textures on your skin. Grab anything from a silk scarf, furry pillow, to a hard bristled brush and start stroking your bare skin. Notice if the texture is pleasurable to you or not. Bring all your attention to the moment of touch.
Pleasure Practice 3
Food can bring a huge amount of pleasure to your life. Pick your favorite food, something you’re craving or your go to delight, and practice pleasure by eating it with your full attention. Slow down each bite and notice the food in your mouth, the tastes, the texture, the temperature, the flavors. Close your eyes to focus your attention on your mouth.
Pleasure practice is a way to play. There is no right or wrong way to do it. As long as you’re brining your full attention and genuine curiosity, your brain will do the rest. And start noticing how many seemingly mundane activities will bring a sense of pleasure.
Inner Reflection Questions
- How do you find pleasure in your daily life?
- Which of your senses are you most tuned into for pleasure?
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